By Analorena Zeledon
ideas for reigniting your relationship
Are you and your spouse in a funk... with both of you feeling like you’re trapped in a routine that you just don’t know how to escape? Worse, is your love life stuck in a rut, too?
Remember those magical days when you first met and started dating? Fast forward a few years-- once you add children and a couple of full time jobs into the mix and life gets complicated. You are left with barely enough time to breathe, let alone time to spend a romantic evening together.
It may be time to jump start your relationship with your spouse. Dr. Lisa Paz, an expert in Clinical Sexology, Marriage, and Family Therapy, has some exciting date ideas to help break you out of the routine and reignite your love life.
Okay, so now that you’re learned something new together, take your partner’s hand and sail away into a luxurious and sensuous couples massage. This intimate activity will not only heighten your senses but will leave you in a state of pure bliss. However, if the idea of spending a pretty penny on a spa is too nerve-wrecking, then opt out of an expensive retreat and create one in the comfort of your own home.
Light candles, turn up soothing ocean sounds, and buy some aromatherapy massage oil. You'll both enjoy getting and giving the extra TLC.
Now that you and your spouse have learned something new and relaxed together, work up some courage and be adventurous. Hit the new hotspot in town, but go incognito. Use new names. Adopt a different persona. Wear a wig. Be creative. To put it simply, go on a “blind” date with your partner and soak up the thrill of doing something risqué!
Ultimately, the “how to’s” and the date ideas are endless and doable, as long as you follow one rule: Schedule, schedule, schedule! Take the idea of dating your spouse seriously, and set aside the time to reconnect and have fun together.
Only by combining your efforts will you and your hubby make dating each other a success. So make an appointment. Use your imagination. Compliment each other. Take turns planning. Go all out and most importantly, have fun!
Dr. Lisa Paz is a Board Certified Sex Therapist and holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Sexology. She is also a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She spends her time between her private practice in Miami, lecturing at the University of Miami, and appearing on local and national television programs. Even with that hectic lifestyle, Dr. Lisa still has time to date her husband every Friday.