The night you’ve been waiting for is finally here. You’re going out with HIM. You’re so eager to get to know him better. Let's be honest... you want to let him experience the real you. But hold on. It’s make it or break it time. You only get one, somewhat delicate, chance to make a first impression. So he needs to meet the best you.
To ensure he sees your most excellent, beautiful self shine through, you’ll need to watch your words. They can have a way of hanging you when you least expect it. To stay in the safe zone, be sure never to utter one of these five things on your first date:
Singles often say this to build rapport. And it can feel chummy to share dating war stories. But in the back of his mind, you’ve already planted a little negative seed that says, “I look on the dark side.” He’ll now be waiting for it to sprout into a full downer.
Impression Booster: Instead, build real and positive connection by asking what he’s passionate about and sharing your most meaningful thrill too.
Impression Buster 2: “You should know, I have this condition, baggage, big fat hairy issue…”
Shouldn’t you just come out and share all of the potential deal breakers right off the bat? No! When you make it past the crucial first three dates, there is plenty of time to share the full, naked truth. But if you tell him right now, without knowing more about you, he’ll probably press the reject button. However, if he likes who you really are first, there is a lot he’ll accept to be with your otherwise lovely self.
Impression Booster: Why not highlight some reasons why you are a total catch? Share some stories that show your “great catch” qualities for him to get a sneak peak into your true self.
Any talk of your past relationship on a first date is a big turn off. But playing the blame game is the biggest no-no of all. This shows that you aren’t mature enough yet to take responsibility for your behavior. He’ll be wondering just how long it will be until you blame him for everything.
Impression Booster: If you must explore previous relationships on your first date, try asking him what he learned about himself the last time he was part of a couple. This will encourage him to show you how he’s grown as a partner! And you can share the same about yourself.
Impression Buster 4: “Waiter, I can’t believe this soup is cold. Get me another!”
He’s watching your every move to get a sense of how you will treat him over time. Even if you’re sweet as sugar to him, if you indulge in impatient, unkind, or rude remarks to other people, he won’t be able to trust you. He’ll know there is a monster lurking and ready to attack him the next time.
Impression Booster: Even if things don’t go perfectly smoothly or as planned, show him you can stay calm, friendly, and gracious under stress. That’s the kind of partner he knows he’d be lucky to land.
Impression Buster 5: “My place or yours?”
If you really like him, you’ll leave some mystery and make him wait to discover more of you. Building intrigue and allowing time for a real bond, is the only way to avoid a crash and burn first date.
Impression Booster: Keep it simple by saying, “You seem like a great guy. I can’t wait to learn more about you soon,” as you smile and head for the door.
By watching your words and staying positive, you can create a great first impression which sparks in him the desire to see you again.